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How to Choose and Use a Paddle in BDSM

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Sex Talk About BDSM Wooden Paddle - Canuck Model.

If you’ve ever experimented with spanking, you’ll know how fun and exciting it can be with an open palm. However, if you’re ready to take it to the next level, paddling is a great way to spice up your spanking.

What Is Paddling?

Paddles are spanking implements used to deliver a more intense sensation. The feeling of paddling can be referred to either as ‘stingy’ or ‘thuddy’. Stingy paddles deliver a more sharp, surface pain with a lingering burn. Thuddy paddles deliver a deeper pain that can send ripples throughout other sensitive parts of the body. Because paddles often have a larger surface area and are made of more rigid materials than other implements, this type of play is more commonly associated with a deep, intense sensation.

What Type of Paddle Is Right for Me?

Leather

This material is a classic BDSM choice: it looks sexy and delivers a stingy sensation. Leather is a good choice for beginners as the pliability of the material means the pain won’t be quite so deep and intense.

Rubber

Often these implements are thick and dense. They deliver intense, thuddy ripples. Good for slightly more experienced spankers wanting to try out something a bit harder.

Wood

Hard, heavy hitting, thick and often wide, wooden paddles are dangerous in all the right ways. They deliver a deep, intense thud with a spicy stingy aftertaste. They are also usually smooth, meaning they can glide and slide over the body easily to increase anticipation.

So How do You Properly Use a Paddle?

Paddling can be really fun, but as with any kinky play, safety comes first. Some handy tips for paddling in a safe and responsible way are as follows:

  1. ALWAYS use a safe word. Agree on a word prior to playing so you or your partner know when to ease up or stop.
  2. Warm up the area that is going to be spanked. Some caressing or stroking will get blood flowing to the area so it’s primed and ready.
  3. Distribute your spanks evenly. The ultimate spanking sweet spot is the area between the buttocks and upper thigh, so by all means give this area special attention; however, make sure to spank different parts too.
  4. Don’t spank the coccyx, back, joints, spine, face and neck. Be gentle with the front of the body and genitals.
  5. Aim for the fleshiest part of the buttocks — this is not only safest, it makes the pain pleasurable by creating those sexy ripples we mentioned before.
  6. Most importantly, KEEP COMMUNICATING! Talk to your partner before, during and after paddling to find out what they like, what they don’t like, and how to really push their buttons with the paddle. Communication is the key to any healthy kinky relationship!

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